debrief with cece xie

debrief with cece xie

Of Counsel

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do relationships ruin your dreams?

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Cece Xie
Sep 22, 2025
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Hi Cece,

Congratulations on your new stages of life: marriage, writing a book (can't wait to read), weddings, IVF (?), and all the small things that bring you joy! I have been following your content since you were still in BigLaw.

I know you might not want to discuss your relationship, but I have a question that could involve it. I grew up with the narrative that relationships (or love) are an obstacle to my dream. "Boys" are to be avoided if I want to get an A. But then again, my parents have this mentality like I should stay single until I am 25 (until I finish …

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